Vatsayana in his Kamasutra suggests that when the man lost all his wealth the courtesan should leave her in search of her former lover. But she should only return to her former lover under the condition that he must be wealthy, or he has acquired fresh wealth. He should be still attached to her, and in case the man is living with some other girl, the courtesan should consider well before she acts.(Last Updated on : 01-12-2008)
Such a man can be in one of the six following conditions:
Now in case the man has left both women, on account of the fickleness of his mind and his indifference to the excellence both the women can leave him.
When a man left a woman according to his own choice and then dispelled by the other, thus decided to go to the former one and give her are plenty of money, then he should be resorted to.
Or, whether when he discover many faults in that woman he would return to her and show him more love because of the excellence she is having and thus give her more money.
Lastly according to Kamasutra based on the circumstances she can resort to him after considering some points like whether he was a weak man, a man fond of enjoying many women, one who liked a poor woman, one who never did anything for his companion, etc. After wisely considering all these factors the woman should decide whether do live with this man or not.
Vatsayana in his Kamasutra suggests that when a man is dispelled by one woman and left the other one according to his own choice, the former one should first find out
If, after considering all these things, she becomes sure that his intentions are really pure and honest, they can be reunited. But if she realizes that his mind is tainted with evil intentions, he should be avoided.
When a man is dispelled by a woman and live with another, in such case if the man decides to return back to the former one, the courtesan should consider the following facts before deciding anything. She should do really fast because the other woman would also be trying on him:
In this whole process of the man coming to the courtesan, the pithamarda and other servants should take an important part by conversing with the man about the courtesan and on related topics.
Thus in this chapter the ways of bringing about a reunion with a former lover ends here. When there is a selection between the former lover or a stranger, according to Acharyas the first one is preferable as because he is known to the courtesan and so he can be easily pleased and sexually satisfied. While Vatsayana in his Kamasutra affirms that the former lover has already spent a whole lot of money on her and thus cannot spend more but the stranger can be proved as a beneficial one. However there can be difference from the general rule according to the particular nature of the man.
There are also verses in Kamasutra on the subject 'Reunion with a former lover may be desirable so as to separate some particular woman from some particular man, or some particular man from some particular woman, or to have a certain effect upon the present lover.'
'When a man is excessively attached to a woman, he is afraid of her coming into contact with other men; he does not then regard or notice her faults and he gives her much wealth through fear of her leaving him.'
'A courtesan should be agreeable to the man who is attached to her, and despise the man who does not care for her. If while she is living with one man, a messenger comes to her from some other man, she may either refuse to listen to any negotiations on his part, or appoint a fixed time for him to visit her, but she should not leave the man who may be living with her and who may be attached to her.'
'A wise woman should only renew her connection with a former lover, if she is satisfied that good fortune, gain, love, and friendship, are likely to be the result of such a reunion.'
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