(Last Updated on : 01/12/2008)
deals with almost every aspects of the human relationship. When a courtesan is living with a man like his wife behaving in chastity she should do everything to his satisfaction. She should behave that she is really attached and love that person but in actual she should not really feel for him. Her only motto should be to give him the sexual pleasure.
The courtesans usually have a mother dependent on her. Who always is very harsh and looked upon money as chief object in life. Kamasutra says that in absence of mother, an old and confidential nurse should play the same role. The woman however shows pretended anger, dejection, fear, and shame on this account, but should not disobey the mother or nurse at any time.
She should make her mother sure that the man is not well and so she has to go to the man. The courtesans often do the following things for the purpose of gaining the man's favour:
Sending her female attendant to bring the flowers used by him on the previous day
In order that she may use them herself as a mark of affection,
Asking for the mixture of betel nut and leaves that have remained uneaten by him
Expressing wonder at his knowledge of sexual intercourse,
The several means of enjoyment used by him,
Learning from him the sixty-four kinds of pleasure,
Continually practicing the ways of enjoyment as taught by him, and according to his liking
Keeping his secrets,
Telling him her own desires and secrets;
Concealing her anger;
Never neglecting him on the bed when he turns his face towards her;
Touching any parts of his body according to his wish;
Kissing and embracing him when he is asleep;
Looking at him with apparent anxiety when he is wrapped in thought, or thinking of some other subject than herself;
Showing neither complete shamelessness, nor excessive embarrassment when he meets her, or sees her standing on the terrace of her house from the public road;
Hating his enemies;
Loving those who are dear to him;
Showing a liking for that which he likes;
Being in high or low spirits according to the state that he is in himself;
Expressing a curiosity to see his wives;
Not continuing her anger for a long time;
Suspecting even the marks and wounds made by herself with her nails and teeth on his body to have been made by some other woman;
Keeping her love for him unexpressed by words, but showing it by some deeds, signs, and hints;
Remaining silent when he is asleep, intoxicated, or sick;
Being very attentive when he describes his good actions, and reciting them afterwards to his praise and benefit; giving witty replies to him if he be sufficiently attached to her;
Listening to all his stories, except those that relate to her rivals;
Expressing feelings of dejection and sorrow if he sighs, yawns, or falls down;
Make a wish for his long life when he sneezes;
Pretending to be ill, or to have the desire of pregnancy, when she feels dejected;
Abstaining from praising the good qualities of anybody else, and from censuring those who possess the same faults as her own man;
Wearing anything that may have been given to her by him;
Abstaining from putting on her ornaments, and from taking food when he is in pain, sick, low-spirited, or suffering from misfortune, also condoling and lamenting with him over the same;
Wishing to accompany him if he happens to leave the country by his own or ostracized by the king;
Telling him that the whole object and desire of her life was to be united with him;
Offering previously promised sacrifices to the Deity when he acquires wealth, or has some desire fulfilled, or when he has recovered from some illness or disease;
Putting on ornaments every day;
Not acting too freely with him;
Reciting his name and the name of his family in her songs placing his hand on her pubic region, Bosom and forehead, and falling asleep after feeling the pleasure of his touch;
Sitting on his lap and falling asleep there;
Wishing to have a child by him;
Desiring not to live longer than he does;
Abstaining from revealing his secrets to others;
Advising him not to keep vows and fasts and welcome all sin upon herself;
Keeping vows and fasts along with him when it is impossible to change his mind on the subject;
Telling him that vows and fasts are difficult to be observed, even by herself, when she has any dispute with him about them;
Looking on their wealth without any distinction;
Abstaining from going to public assemblies without him, and accompanying him according to his desire;
Taking delight in using things previously used by him, and in eating food that he has left uneaten;
Respecting his family, disposition, skill in the arts, learning, caste, complexion, his native country, friends, good qualities, age, and his sweet temper;
Asking him to sing, or any other extra curricular activities in which he is proficient;
Going to him without paying attention to any fear, cold, heat, or rain;
Saying that he should be her lover even in the next world;
Adapting her tastes, disposition and actions to his liking;
Abstaining from sorcery;
Disputing continually with her mother on the subject of going to him, and, when forcibly taken by her mother to some other place, expressing her desire to die by taking poison, starving herself to death, stabbing herself with some weapon, or by hanging herself; and lastly
Assuring the man of her constancy and love by means of her agents, she should receive money by herself, and abstain from any dispute with her mother with regard to financial matters.
The courtesans should exactly behave like his wife and according to Kamasutra, when the man is not present or is out for any specific reason she should make him avow that he will return quickly and will also vow to worship the Deity.
After an intimate relationship with his man at his house, the woman should return home and should worship god 'Kama' and also give him offering. Vatsayana in his Kamasutra also says that with water filled pot she should worship the crow that eats the offerings, which one makes to the manes of dead relatives. After the first visit is over she should ask her lover to perform certain rites, and he would do accordingly if serious in relation.
According to kamasutra, a man is adequately attached with a courtesan when the following things happen like his love is disinterested, when they see the same object, when there is no space for miscommunication, and when there is no problem regarding money.
Thus this is way in which the courtesan should live with the man like his wife.
There are also two verses on the subject as follows:
'The extent of the love of women is not known, even to those who are the objects of their affection, on account of its subtlety, and on account of the avarice, and natural intelligence of womankind.'
'Women are hardly ever known in their true light, though they may love men, or become indifferent towards them, may give them delight, or abandon them, or may extract from them all the wealth that they may possess.'