The man should first receive the woman in the pleasure-room, which is well decorated with flowers, fragrant with perfumes and attended by many of his friends and servants. The man then invites the well-dressed woman to seat beside him and take refreshment and drink. He then gently embraces the woman with his right arm and converse on some "naughty" topics, which cannot be discussed generally in the public. Then they should start singing, playing musical instrument, and while continuing drinking they should also talk about some arts. In this way when they spend some time together and the woman feel arousing the man send away his friends with flowers, ointments, and betel leaves. And at last when they are alone in the room they start the whole process as discussed in the previous chapters. Thus the whole process starts in a very artistic way.(Last Updated on : 19-12-2008)
After the practice is done, at the end of the sexual union the partners politely go to the washroom separately. Then they sit at their own places and eat some betel leaves. The man applies some sandal wood ointment to the body of the woman and embraces her passionately with his left arm. He then talks to her very pleasingly and make her to drink from a cup held in his own hand or give her water. They can eat some sweetmeat or can drink the juice of mango fruits, the extract of the juice of the citron tree mixed with sugar, or anything, which is sweet, soft, and pure.
The lovers may also sit on the patio of the palace or house, and enjoy the moonlight, and continue a pleasurable conversation. At this time the man shows her the different planets, the morning star, the polar star, and the seven Rishis, or Great Bear while the woman lies in his lap, with her face towards the moon. Thus ends the session of sexual union.
Congress is of the following kinds:
Loving congress: when a man and a woman are united after a long time like after returning from a long journey or after a quarrel, then the congress is called the 'loving congress'. This time the partners only usually choose duration and type of the union. Congress of subsequent love: When two persons whose love for each other is still in its infancy, come together. Their congress is called the 'congress of subsequent love'. Congress of artificial love: When a man does the sexual union by means of sixty-four ways, such as kissing, embracing, etc. or When a man and a woman emotionally involved with any one else come together, their congress is then called 'congress of artificial love'. All the procedures mentioned in kama shashtra should be used in this type of union.
Congress of transferred love: When a man thinks of another woman whom he loves at the time of congress, it is called the 'congress of transferred love'. Congress like that of eunuchs: sexual practice with a man and a woman, who carries water, or a servant of lower caste, lasting only until the need is satisfied, is called 'congress like that of eunuchs'. External touches, kisses and manipulation are not included in this process.
Deceitful congress: When a courtesan and a peasant are united or when a citizen and a village woman are doing the practice, it is called 'deceitful congress'. Congress of spontaneous love: The congress, which is done between two persons attracted to one another and according to their wish, is called 'spontaneous congress'. These are some of the kinds of congresses given here.
The next chapter is love quarrels.
A woman when very much in love with a man doesn't like to hear the name of other girl, or to have any conversation regarding her. She can become offended even to be addressed by her name through mistake. At this situation she becomes furious and a great quarrel arises. She does many foul actions like she cries, becomes angry, strikes her lover, falls from her bed or seat, casting aside her garlands and ornaments, or throws herself down on the ground.
At this situation he should try to settle her with appeasing words, and should take her up carefully and place her on the bed. But she angrily bends down his head by pulling his hair, and kicked him several times on his arms, head, bosom, back, or shoulder and finally goes towards the door. But Dattaka says that she doesn't go out but cries a lot sitting at the door. After sometime, when she cools down and reminds the appeasing words of her partner, she embraces him, taking to him though with harsh and accusing words, shows the intention of getting united.
When the woman is in her own house and the quarreling starts, the situation becomes more complicated. To show the grade of her angriness she leaves him and afterwards the Vita, the Vidushaka or the Pithamarda comes to pacify her, she should come with them back to the house, and spend the night with her lover. Thus end the love quarrels in a very romantic way.
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