According to Part I, Chapter V of Kamasutra, there are many qualities for which the wives of other people may be resorted to. But there should be some other criteria on which the liking should depend such as the possibility of their acquirement, their strength for cohabitation, the danger in uniting with them, and the future effect of these relationships.:
Love of the eye
Attachment of the mind
Constant reflection
Destruction of sleep
Emaciation of the body
Turning away from objects of enjoyment
Removal of shame
Madness
Fainting
Death
According to ancient authors, a man should study the woman body or her characteristic marks and signs to know the nature, truthfulness, purity, will, and also the intensity or weakness of her passions. But Vatsayana's Kamasutra is of opinion that the forms of bodies, and the characteristic marks and signs can sometimes proved to be wrong. So according to him women should be judged by their conduct, by the external appearance of their thoughts, and by the movements of their bodies.
According to Gonikaputra, the woman usually gets attracted to every handsome man, she is acquainted with and so does the man. They easily fall in love with every beautiful woman. But due to various constrains they do not take further steps. The woman when loves someone sometimes does the following actions, she loves without looking upon the right or wrong, she never tries to take the first step to gain over a man or when the man tries it she simply shrinks from him whether she want the union or not. But when the process is repeated over and over again at last she gives her consent. It is usually said that if some man gained anything very easily he doesn't give much importance to it and only desires a thing, which cannot be achieved easily.
Kamasutra states that the causes of a woman rejecting the approaches of a man are as follows:
Affection for her husband
Desire of lawful progeny
Want of opportunity
Anger at being addressed by the man too familiarly
Difference in rank of life
Want of certainty on account of the man being devoted travelling
Thinking that the man may be attached to some other person
Fear of the man's not keeping his intentions secret
Thinking that the man is too devoted to his friends, and has too great a regard for them
The apprehension that he is not in earnest
Bashfulness on account of his being an illustrious man
Fear on account of his being powerful, or possessed of too impetuous passion, in the case of the deer woman
Bashfulness on account of his being too clever
The thought of having once lived with him on friendly terms only
Contempt of his want of knowledge of the world
Distrust of his low character
Disgust at his want of perception of her love for him
In the case of an elephant woman, the thought that he is a hare man, or a man of weak passion
Compassion lest anything should befall him on account of his passion
Despair at her own imperfections
Fear of discovery
Disillusion at seeing his grey hair or shabby appearance
Fear that he may be employed by her husband to test her chastity
The thought that he has too much regard for morality
The man if sense any one or the other from the above list should try to eradicate it from the very beginning. He should try to remove all the doubts and shyness of the woman by showing his great love and affection for her. He should show some way of access to remove the difficulty of the meetings, or of his inaccessibility. He should try to make himself familiar and tells the woman not to give him excessive respect. To avoid the feeling of being a low character person he should show his wisdom or knowledge.
According to Vatsayana's Kamasutra the following are the men who generally acquire success with women:
Men well versed in the science of love
Men skilled in telling stories
Men acquainted with women from their childhood Men
Who have secured their confidence
Men who send presents to them
Men who talk well
Men who do things that they like
Men who have not loved other women previously
Men who act as messengers
Men who know their weak points
Men who are desired by good women
Men who are united with their female friends
Men who are good looking
Men who have been brought up with them
Men who are their neighbors
Men who are devoted to sexual pleasures, even though these be with their own servants
The lovers of the daughters of their nurse
Men who have been lately married
Men who like picnics and pleasure parties
Men who are liberal
Men who are celebrated for being very strong (Bull men)
Enterprising and brave men
Men who surpass their husbands in learning and good looks, in good qualities, and in liberality
Men whose dress and manner of living are magnificent
The following are the women who are easily gained over:
Women who stand at the doors of their houses
Women who are always looking out on the street
Women who sit conversing in their neighbour's house
A woman who is always staring at you
A female messenger
A woman who looks sideways at you
A woman whose husband has taken another wife without any cause
A woman who hates her husband, or who is hated by him
A woman who has nobody to look after her, or keep her in check
A woman who has not had any children
A woman whose family or caste is not well known
A woman whose children are dead
A woman who is very fond of society
A woman who is apparently very affectionate with her husband
The wife of an actor
A widow
A poor woman
A woman fond of enjoyments
The wife of a man with many younger brothers
A vain woman
A woman whose husband is inferior to her in rank or abilities
A woman who is proud of her skill in the arts
A woman disturbed in mind by the folly of her husband
A woman who has been married in her infancy to a rich man, and not liking him when she grows up, desires a man possessing a disposition, talents, and wisdom suitable to her own tastes.
A woman who is slighted by her husband without any cause
A woman who is not respected by other women of the same rank or beauty as herself
A woman whose husband is devoted to traveling
The wife of a jeweler
A jealous woman
A covetous woman
An immoral woman
A barren woman
A lazy woman
A cowardly woman
A humpbacked woman
A dwarfish woman
A deformed woman
A vulgar woman
An ill-smelling woman
A sick woman
An old woman
Kamasutra further supports the subject with the following verse. :
'Desire, which springs from nature, and which is increased by art, and from which all danger is taken away by wisdom, becomes firm and secure. A clever man, depending on his own ability, and observing carefully the ideas and thoughts of women, and removing the causes of their turning away from men, is generally successful with them.'
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