If the marriages happen in accordance with the precepts of the Holy Writ, the results of such a union is the acquisition of Dharma and Artha, offspring, affinity, increase of friends and untarnished love. For this reason, Vatsyayana explains some characteristics, which are the pre-requisites for every man to search and choose his proper bride; these include her family background, her physical attributes and wealth. It is also required for the men to possess these qualities themselves. But at all events, a girl who is not a virgin should never be loved, for it would be reproachable to do such a thing.

In order to bring about a marriage with such a girl as described above, the parents and relations of the man should exert themselves, as also such friends on both sides as may be desired to assist in the matter. Also a girl should be taken as a wife, as also given in marriage, when fortune, signs, omens, and the words of others are favourable. But apart from these, some authors say that prosperity is gained only by marrying that girl to whom one becomes attached, and that therefore no other girl but the one who is loved should be married by anyone.

When a girl is thus acquired, either according to the custom of the country, or according to his own desire, the man should marry her in accordance with the precepts of the Holy Writ, according to one of the four kinds of marriage. In all the forms of all marriages, the Gandharva form of marriage is respected, even though it is formed under unfavourable circumstances, because it brings forth happiness, causes less trouble in its performance than the other forms of marriage and is above all the result of previous love.

After the marriage takes place, Vatsyayana says that the man should begin to win her over, and to create confidence in her, and for a few days, abstain from sexual pleasures. Women, being of a tender nature, want tender beginnings, and when their husbands forcibly approach them, they sometimes suddenly become haters of sexual connection and of the male sex. The man should therefore approach the girl according to her liking, and should use certain by which he may be able to establish himself more and more into her confidence, e.g.: He should try and make her comfortable by some of his actions.

Also, if the man is previously acquainted with the girl he should converse with her by means of a female friend, who may be favourable to him, and in the confidence of both, and carry on the conversation on both sides. Thus, a man acting according to the inclinations of a girl should try to gain her over so that she may love him and place her confidence in him. When a boy has thus begun to woo the girl he loves, he should spend his time with her and amuse her with various games and diversions fitted for their age and acquaintanceship.

In addition to this, he should carry on various amusing games played by several persons together, in company with the girl, her friends and female attendants. The man should also show great kindness to any woman whom the girl thinks fit to be trusted, and should also make new acquaintances. In this way the man should do whatever the girl takes most delight in, and he should get for her whatever she may have a desire to possess.

He should also procure playthings for her as may be hardly known to other girls. And these should be given at different times whenever he gets a good opportunity of meeting her and some of them should be given in private, and some in public, according to circumstances. In short, he should try in every way to make her look upon him as one who would do for her everything that she wanted to be done. Later, he should teach her all the sixty-four means of pleasure practised by men, and under this pretext should also inform her of his great skill in the art of sexual enjoyment.

After various attempts of the man, when the girl begins to show her love by outward signs and motions, the lover should try to gain her over entirely by various ways and means. But if it is for the man to carry to try to gain her confidence again, he should ask for the help of the girl`s female family members of friends in whom she confides. At last, when he knows the state of her feelings by her outward manner and conduct towards him, he should begin to enjoy her when she is alone, for Vatsyayana lays it down, that women, when resorted to at proper times and in proper places, do not turn away from their lovers.

The idea of creating confidence, wooing her, winning her over and most importantly the skill of wife are described in a coherent way in the part III of Kamasutra. This part of Kamasutra is about the acquisition of a wife which is comprises of four chapters.

Chapter I: This chapter is on observations on engagement and marriage.

Chapter II: This chapter underlines about creating confidence in the girl.

Chapter III: This is mainly on courtship, and the manifestation of the feelings by outward signs and deeds.

Chapter IV: About things to be done only by the man, and the acquisition of the girl thereby and also what is to be done by a girl to gain over a man, and subject him to her.

Chapter V: This chapter of Kamasutra deals with different forms of marriage.